Is honesty still a virtue?

When I first moved back to New Mexico, a common complaint I would express to my closest friends was that it you either met nice people or people who were fun to talk to. I'm lucky enough to have four friends who are both nice and funny, a rare combination of wonderful traits. Nice people are great friends, they are loyal and will always listen to your problems. If I make a joke, generally they will laugh at it. But they aren't used to repartee of that manner. I like nice people. At times, I think I am one.

Funny people are entertaining to be around. They are quick to respond, generally get my obscure references, and also keep conversations moving along. They also are great when I want to go to a movie simply to make snarky comments.

I'm starting to wonder if there is a divorce of humor and kindness. Can a person be both warm and incredibly funny? The majority of my most embarassing comments have been when I got carried away with being funny and I said something that was more sarcastically mean than sarcastically witty. While my wit sharpens when I am around a witty but snarky person, I also become meaner.

I read this study where a group of college girls were given two stacks of men's facebook-type profiles (with pictures). The researchers said that one stack was of boys who they know are attracted to the girl, and the other was a stack of boys who hadn't been asked. The girls were then asked to rate which boys were more attractive. Overwhelmingly, the girls rated the unknown boys higher. What's interesting is all the boys were rated at the same level of attractivity by a control group of girls. Somehow, the trait that attracts the most girls is indifference. How is that even possible?

I value my friends who are honest and sweet, but I find myself wanting to hang out with the ones who are funny. I wonder where I'd be classified? I'd like to think that my priority is to treat people how I'd want to be treated, but I'm unsure if that's still true. Is there a medium? Can you be both truly nice and truly funny?